Tag : emotional alchemy

Taking The Log Out Of Your Eye And Destroying Inner Judgement

I have been very active in the past week (not particularly in writing), but in going out and enjoying nature. Yes... The picture above is me bursting through a tree, showing superman how its done. It has given me a lot of time to think about things and to look inwardly, to dig deep, and to find out what is really running me. And how we can be so critical of ourselves. That inner judgement leads us to want to judge others. However when we begin to catch ourselves in that thought loop and start to re-orchestrate our thought patterns to loving ourselves, something happens. For instance the simple mantra which Kamal uses on his in breaths, "I love myself." is a good healthy first step! Maybe why bible verses like this spring up from Matthew 7, 4-5: "Or how can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' and behold, the log is in your own eye? 5"You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eye." That when we learn how to cleanse ourselves, judgement no longer becomes an operation we put out toward others as a by-product. They may not completely stop, but in my experience they are lessened in larger degrees. Let me share with you a wonderful story that Kamal Ravikant brought up in his book Live Your Truth about Gandhi, [...]

Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It

Thanks to my friend Delma, I came across a book that recently helped me pull myself out of a funk that had almost overtaken me the other day. This goes completely with my philosophy of sharing your truth with others because what helped you may help others. This book is a short but phenomenal read (I read it in one sitting). It comes down to Kamals journey of going from just breaking up with his girlfriend and losing a close friend to death to transforming himself into loving his life through self-love. [...]

How Letting Go Of Control Can Lead You Back To You

If you like this article, please share it with loved ones on facebook, google+, and any other social media sites, IT is much appreciated. This seems to be a theme that plays a large role in the west style of relationship. We always seem to be trying to control our circumstance to have some kind of grounding. This kind of clinging causes much human suffering. Letting go of control is probably one of the most important things you can learn when relating to others. Why is letting go important? When we can't see that our ideas may not be whats actually going on, then we cling to that idea even at the expense of our our happiness. Letting go of our ideas of ourselves and others  is important because it allows true openness and honesty to blossom during relating. Trying to pin a stagnant checklist/idea to someone you love (or to yourself) is not conducive to emotional well being. As soon as we have an idea of someone else, we no longer see them for who they are. And this then leads to mis-understanding because of our insistence to clinging to OUR idea that they "should or shouldn't" be a certain way. This is a selfish behavior which when seen through can be stopped through conscious response. See how human suffering can sprout from just this need to hang on to our ideas? We not only shoot ourselves in the foot with this one, but we end up shooting the other in the foot as well, even though they are innocent! What does letting go of control look like? [...]

3 Emotional Alchemy Tricks On The Way To Happiness

Last night I had the pleasure of discussing this topic with a few wonderful ladies about what it means to be in good relationship with one another. This lead me to re-think some of the tricks that I have learned over my own journey to my way to happiness. Most of them comes from the stoic theme of be self content. And it sounds a lot easier said then done (and in some cases it really is tough self work.) Now I'm not saying it is cake... but i'll get to that in a moment. Here however is what I want to talk a little bit about: Being self content through self love. Dropping your ideas about others to set them free. Letting go of your ideas about you to set you free. [...]

4 ODD Tips To Developing Emotional Intelligence

[caption id="attachment_76" align="aligncenter" width="640"] credit via EmilyGrace Photography[/caption] I'm just like anyone else, trying my best to work on bettering who I am as a person. When it comes to emotional resilience, it can be a real struggle because there are a lot of things that tend to get in the way of dealing with our life events. What I've learned through my journey of emotional alchemy is that there are some key principles that can allow the process of the heart to open in ways that can bypass logic (most of the time it has to.) which allows us to fully integrate an experience, surrender, and let it go. Here are the things I'm going to talk about. Dropping the idea that our thoughts are important. Focusing more on emotion then on thought. How to Incorporate this emotional alchemy into everyday life. Meditation of the heart to emotional well being. [...]