You Don’t Get To Keep It
Today has been an amazing day of insight for me. Something that is always pleasant to rediscover is impermanence. Impermanence sounds like a big word but all it really means is that nothing will last. It all either dies or moves on in the transition of the seasons.
I mean, even the transitioning of the seasons is proof that nothing lasts. You will never have that kind of season ever again. There may be similarities, but that specific season, in that moment, is gone.
This is how we should look at anything though, really. Now, I know it sounds morbid to think about how nothing lasts, because it either dies or moves on. This insight, however, can do you a lot of good if you can really see it well in everyday life.
I will use the common day friendship. At some point, a friendship will die and or move on, whether it takes 50 years or is done in one month. So, here are a couple of things to consider when knowing this:
- Why worry about a future time when it will be ending? You know it will, so why try and control it for a “future date.” Enjoy what you have right now in the present. Tomorrow never comes anyway, so projecting can be a great source of anxiety.
- You don’t get to keep anything you currently have, so be thankful for who and what you have in your lives right now.
- There are no guarantees. Aside from the fact that everything is changing and is in a constant state of flux, there is no guarantee the promises people make you will be fulfilled so do not expect them to.
Why is this important to emotional alchemy?
I think this idea is important, because it helps us from holding too many expectations of things, people, or circumstances. When we are able to give up our false sense of control and let things go through knowing that nothing lasts, life gets lighter.
I have struggled with this one and have not found an easy way out, but I find that this helps when it comes to hoping for something to stick around. It allows me to appreciate the relationships in my life that I have right now. It helps me dissolve the story of how I “wish things could be different”
It also has helped me to combat my old habitual cycles of trying to control a relationship in order to fit the way I want it to because. Trying to control in that way actually breaks down relationships in an unhealthy non-emotionally resilient way.
You’re secretly working on self-love
When you wake up in the morning, you can remind yourself that nothing lasts! So love like there is no tomorrow (because there isn’t, it never comes). The people you love in your life deserve to have your love shared with them.
And of course, watch the heart from thinking it needs something in return. You are complete as is, without needing a reward. The journey is the reward.
If you love a flower, don’t pick it up.
Because if you pick it up it dies and it ceases to be what you love.
So if you love a flower, let it be.
Love is not about possession.
Love is about appreciation. -Osho