Category : Relationship

Practicing Mindfulness and Creating A Love Mantra

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  In my journey to being more compassionate and loving around the people that bless me with being in my life. I have come to create my own rituals that I have found that resonate well with me throughout the day. It is similar to Kamals "I love myself" mantra but with an added prayer to the Master (I also call him the Master Programmer). This helps me orchestrate my day on a positive tone, rather than getting snagged up by the stories we can sometimes get carried away with. Stories that make us heavy and may not be particularly helpful when it comes to loving ourselves and enjoying life from moment to moment. Here are my two major rituals that I indulge in from day to day and from moment to moment. [...]

How To Bypass Heart Void With Emptiness (Unconditional Love)

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As you may or may not have noticed, but I have been taking quite a break from posting on Emotional Alchemy. I can assure you that it is to good cause. To re-shape who I am and to get back to the beat of my soul. And with this I have more to share with you. So I am going to show you my spiritual walk as well as how I was able to bypass the feeling of nothingness that can typically happen when you delve into a think called "The Emptiness Teaching." To the many Bodhisattva, this is one of the most important teachings, and to the Christ this is, "To gain your life, you must lose your life." Unconditional Love is Directly Seeing Yourself [...]

How To Maintain A Healthy Relationship By Breaking Bad (Habits)

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It has been two years since the last time that I have been in a relationship. No, not the ones we have every day with people, but the one that involves a female companion. I’ve learned a lot about myself in that time of reflection and mindfulness. I’ve learned to love and respect myself (and am still learning). I have also learned of the shadow parts of my life that I wanted to change, and have been working at every moment to respond better to others. When it comes to relationship, I think it is good to have a clear idea of what we want from it. For me, naturally that comes to writing it down or creating a blueprint (or guidelines) of it. So here is what I learned as to how to maintain a healthy relationship and what that even looks like. I don’t claim to be a relationship expert but these are things that I’ve seen in my own experienced and thought I would share it. I hope this may help guide you in your own exploration of what a healthy relationship is. Being able to share what you want and to communicate clearly is very important. Especially with the ones you love. In comes my naked vulnerable self [...]

How To NOT Objectify The Other

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I’ve recently been working with a common theme that exists in a lot of our relational structures as human beings. Now I know what you want to say, “I don’t objectify people.” You would be correct to an extent to think so, but try seeing even the most subtle version of objectification or manipulation. This [...]

How Letting Go Of Control Can Lead You Back To You

If you like this article, please share it with loved ones on facebook, google+, and any other social media sites, IT is much appreciated. This seems to be a theme that plays a large role in the west style of relationship. We always seem to be trying to control our circumstance to have some kind of grounding. This kind of clinging causes much human suffering. Letting go of control is probably one of the most important things you can learn when relating to others. Why is letting go important? When we can't see that our ideas may not be whats actually going on, then we cling to that idea even at the expense of our our happiness. Letting go of our ideas of ourselves and others  is important because it allows true openness and honesty to blossom during relating. Trying to pin a stagnant checklist/idea to someone you love (or to yourself) is not conducive to emotional well being. As soon as we have an idea of someone else, we no longer see them for who they are. And this then leads to mis-understanding because of our insistence to clinging to OUR idea that they "should or shouldn't" be a certain way. This is a selfish behavior which when seen through can be stopped through conscious response. See how human suffering can sprout from just this need to hang on to our ideas? We not only shoot ourselves in the foot with this one, but we end up shooting the other in the foot as well, even though they are innocent! What does letting go of control look like? [...]

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